I asked her why she was so sad and she answered, “ nothing is working out in my life and I just feel terrible the whole time .” I looked at her for a moment and asked, “what is that one thing you would like you to change in your life that will settle everything in your life?” She paused and thought over it and then after a long sigh, she said, “ nobody loves and respects me”. I asked her, “ do you appreciate, love and respect yourself?”. She answered, “ I hate myself, the way I look, the way I have lived my life and the way I am treated by others”. I said to her,” If you do not love yourself then how you can expect others to love and respect you. What goes around comes around. You need to first develop self-love and start appreciating yourself for all the small and big things you have done so far in life, be proud of yourself”.
This was a big step for her as she has been condemning herself for her entire life and blaming herself for all the negatives in her life. She never looked at the positives in her life. I told her,” first decision you need to make is to love and respect yourself always”. I quoted this for her to make her understand, “Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility.” – Oprah Winfrey.
I also quoted for her, “When someone makes a decision, he is really diving into a strong current that will carry him to places he had never dreamed of when he first made the decision.” – Paulo Coelho.
To my pleasant surprise, she agreed to make this ONE DECISION for the betterment of her life. She agreed to love herself and admire herself. She said, I will CHOOSE to be happy under all circumstances”.
And then, a miracle happened, as soon she made the choice, she was free…
Yes, it’s the power of choice that makes us happy or miserable.
“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice, and discipline.” – Jim Collins.
Life is a series of continuous big and small choices we make every day. Let’s promise to focus on the positive and avoid the negatives. Use the POWER OF CHOICE and TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE.
Stay blessed and keep smiling.
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